Are you considering your options and want to gain some professional advice from a family solicitor in Amersham? Perhaps you are unsure of your rights regarding the children, or the assets that you and your partner have acquired over the time you have spent together.
By speaking with a family solicitor in Amersham, you are able to gain invaluable and bespoke advice that can guide you down the right path that you need to take in order to obtain a swift and amicable separation from your partner. We have many years of experience in these matters and understand the unique intricacies that every different case has to offer.
How can we reduce the impact on our children?
There are many things that you can do to ensure that both you and your ex-partner avoid involving your children unnecessarily during this stressful time in your lives. You are most likely feeling concerned for their welfare and anxious about what impact you might have on them.
By behaving in a respectful and mature way, you are teaching valuable skills to your children in how to reasonably settle a disagreement. Life is never perfect and we firmly believe that by trying to create perfection where there is none, for the sake of your children, that this will give a skewed interpretation of relationships that can have an effect on their future.
By avoiding arguments in front of your children and not speaking negatively about their mother or father in front of them, you are significantly reducing the impact that the separation process can have on them.
You should also endeavour to keep their routine as normal as possible, so that they do not feel confused or anxious about their own lives during this tumultuous time.
Children will undoubtedly have a lot of questions, and often they feel that the separation has been caused by them. Talk to them openly and honestly, and explain to them that you and your partner will be happier and healthier apart, that they are still loved and that this was in no uncertain terms through any wrong doing of their own.
You will be surprised at the comprehension of your child at any age. You should not actively try to keep secrets from them but rather keep a healthy balance of involvement and separation from the divorce proceedings, so that they feel part of the family but not overly influenced by it.
This sounds complicated and I am overwhelmed already
We trust that you know what is best for your family, even if you don’t feel like this is the case. By being conscious of changes in your child’s behaviour, you can judge what you feel to be an appropriate response. Be understanding, respectful, mature and clear about your expectations during this period.
We make sure that your children’s considerations are heard and have some influence on the final decision making throughout the process. They are a part of the family unit and their needs should be a priority, in order for the transition into having divorced parents to be as smooth as possible.