We are not saying that divorce is not a traumatic experience, because it is. It can be highly stressful, emotional and filled with anger and bad feelings toward the person with whom you were once head-over-heels in love.
However, what has changed is that people are looking for healthier ways of settling a divorce rather than long and bitter court proceedings. More and more estranged couples are turning towards mediation for a swift and conflict-free resolution to a failed marriage.
Come and have a chat with us, a legal firm called Coyle White Devine if you are serious about resolving your divorce through mediation. We can point you in the direction of an Amersham family solicitor who can guide you.
Why shouldn’t I go to court, especially if I have a child to fight for?
Putting your child in the middle of a complicated courthouse battle turns them into collateral damage. By fighting tooth and nail for custody, you are not protecting them, but are instead causing them more harm than good. If you want full custody to spite your ex-partner, any worthwhile family solicitor would always act in the best interests of a child, and would advise against this.
Mediation shows couples that, despite their failed relationship, they should still be putting their children’s interests first, as parents. For the sake of their children, they must communicate and devise a parenting strategy that permits legitimate custodial and visitation rights that are satisfactory to all parties involved.
Divorce is not a game where the winner takes all
In fact, nobody really wins, and both parties will have to make sacrifices in divorce – whether it is spending less time with their child or losing personal wealth. This piece of advice is what our Amersham family solicitor will tell you on your first consultation seeking legal counsel.
In any case, assets are divided similarly in mediation as they are in a courtroom, so why put yourself through a high-stress situation and spend thousands in lawyer’s fee if the results are no different to discussing issues with a mediator present?
How does mediation work if my spouse and I cannot be in the same room without fighting?
Mediation is more than just a conversation between two people, it includes a facilitator who oversees the discussion.
A mediator drives the conversation forward, keeping the two of you focussed instead of rehashing the same arguments over and over again and making no headway in the decision making. This way, you will be led to making rational decisions that everyone agrees on.
You should still hire a lawyer even if you settle your divorce out of court
It is all well and good to finalise your divorce without stepping foot into a court, but it is still in your best interest to consult with Amersham family solicitors especially when it comes to dividing your assets and protecting what is yours.
At the very least, your solicitor can help you to understand legal terms that help you to make informed decisions. Two definitions that you might be acquainted with and hear often are separate and marital property. Assets acquired before marriage, as well as inheritance are wholly yours, while marital property acquired during a marriage, are jointly shared.
Mediation offers non-confrontational and less harrowing means of ending a divorce affordably. Consider this method if you are looking to move on to the next chapter of your life swiftly.